Who Are You?

My sister Joni is Queen of the Three-Quarter-Length Sleeve. In addition, she is a busy homemaker, enthusiastic grandmother, active church worker, and friend of children in Haiti. The sleeve thing is just one minor little attribute of Joni’s that sets her apart from others.  Like all of us, she is a composite of many different qualities.

In the following paragraphs, I will identify some characteristics that help to distinguish me from others.

I am a woman who loves God, family, and country. I do my best to obey the laws of the land and I practice, to the best of my ability, the Golden Rule. I brush and floss religiously, go for yearly mammograms, practice thorough hand washing, and take a multivitamin.

I drive responsibly, keep my checkbook balanced, show up on time for appointments, and strictly avoid standing in the 20 items or fewer check-out line when my shopping cart contains more than 20 items. (I know the signs always say 20 items or less, but such signs demonstrate incorrect word usage and drive me nuts.) Because I cannot bear to see suffering, I sometimes rescue pitiful, semi-dried red worms off the driveway and return them to their source of water. (I pick them up with sticks.) Those are some of my finer traits.

On the flip side of the coin, I admit to possessing these less-desirable qualities. I am a so-so housekeeper and a lazy cook. I binge on ice cream, overindulge my grandchildren, and am lousy at backing a vehicle.

I eat raw cake batter and stand by my conviction that the best chocolate chip cookie is one that has never seen the inside of an oven. I recklessly cut off those pillow tags that warn: Do Not Remove Under Penalty of Law, and I may be just a bit persnickety in the area of grammar and word usage.

I procrastinate, overanalyze, make to-do lists and ignore them, leave coupons at home when I go shopping, yo-yo diet, drink diet soda, watch too many crime-solving shows on TV (Dateline, 48 Hours, etc.), search endlessly for books of crossword puzzles that are not too hard and not too easy, pluck out eyebrows compulsively when I am nervous, obsess over having just the right ink pen, and occasionally compose paragraphs containing only one long, run-on sentence, like this one.

I detest clutter, dust, weeds, and clothes that need to be ironed. I also hate crude language and gestures, running late, clothes shopping, and searching for my phone fifteen times a day. I look in the windows of parked cars to see if they are more cluttered than mine, and I occasionally scrutinize the junk food items in other people’s shopping carts and make unkind judgments. (Never mind the two quarts of mint chocolate chip ice cream in mine.)

I cry over spilled milk, make mountains out of molehills, cross bridges before I come to them, and beat dead horses. All of those are characteristics, good and bad, of the person I am, but they do not define me, just as Queen of the Three-Quarter Length Sleeve does not define Joni.

This is who I am: I am a mortal, plagued like all mortals, by imperfections. I am blessed beyond what I deserve and am awaiting a reward which I haven’t earned. I have been called, cleansed, and claimed as God’s child.

Who are you?


6 thoughts on “Who Are You?”

  1. I am not really sure who I am or what distinctives I have other than everyone knows my favorite color is lavender. But I do know I am a child of God and I rest in that! (But Debbie, after reading this, you have given me some things to ponder about my specific traits, the good, bad, and ugly!)

    1. Becky,

      Your friends and family members could compose a long list of all the good things you bring to our lives. You’ve been a blessing to me for many years, and I truly appreciate your faithful reading of and commenting on my blog posts.


  2. Yes, even now I am wearing a shirt with three-quarter length sleeves. You’ve got me pegged!! 🙂 I would bet that you have on the same kind of shirt; quite possibly the SAME shirt. You and I are so close to the same that it’s downright strange. Sisters by birth AND by the heart.

    1. Yes, you are my sister x 2 and always will be. It’s been 95 degrees most days lately. Are you sure that three-quarter-length-sleeved top will keep you warm enough? 🙂


  3. I know I am a mom first and now a wife again for the second time in fifteen years. I am a twin, to which only became real when I became an adult. Meaning she knows me more and better than anyone but I spend less and less time with for no other reason then that is life! I know I am an awful friend but a wonderful friend. I don’t give the time of day to some of my dearest friends, but when I do get to spend time with one of them it feels like I couldn’t be happier. I love having my friends in my life. Nearly everyone of my close friends were invited to my wedding and the ALL showed up!! That made me feel very special! My priorities are screwed up. I put God and Church often after my needs and wants, in which I hate that, but I always have excuses that seem to set good in my little pea brain. When I was young I worked because I loved it, as an adult I work because I have to to support my needs of wants! … and I eat Ice Cream because I love it!

    1. Teena, You are all that and more to those of us who love you! Thanks so much for reading and responding! (You have awesome girls too!)


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s